realisticrecovery:

i actually think it’s terrible that people demand survivors to forgive their abusers. it’s like they are saying ‘i know, you’ve always existed to make your abuser feel better and guess what? you still have to do that. you aren’t allowed to be a real person with real feelings of justified anger. you have to be a good victim. you have to be obedient. your abuser’s feelings are still much more important than your well being’

oh and saying shit like ‘it’s necessary for your recovery that you forgive them’ is a manipulative lie. just fuck off.