just because a ship is fictional doesnt mean it cant hurt people
when abuse survivors such as myself are exposed to untagged abusive or toxic ships clogging a main tag it can upset or trigger them
our feelings and experiences are valid and just because the thing upsetting us is “fictional” it does not make our feelings any less real
please respect abuse survivors
hey this is just a request but if you feel safe to reblog this could you maybe consider doing so? i think this is kind of important and so many times people speak over abuse survivors on these issues and say that our feelings dont matter. i think it might be good for this to be spread around a little
Tag: ptsd
Therapists are just…. Common sense filters
Me: yeah so I just don’t have the energy to get up and make myself a sandwich or wait for something to cook so I just. Don’t
Her: why don’t you just eat the sandwich components without putting them together
Me:
Her: you can just eat a handful of cheese and some sandwich meat. You don’t have to make a sandwich.
Me:
Me: what
Therapists finding loopholes for mental illness things is one of my favorite things about dealing with mental illness because it really helps me understand that just because a reaction is Common doesn’t mean it’s Right. Does doing dishes stress you out a lot? Buy paper plates. Do your obsessive thoughts make you worry about leaving your curling iron on so you drive home from work to check? Just put the curling iron in your purse and bring it to work with you while we work on tackling where this worry comes from. Symptom management doesn’t have to look like drudgery.
i used to go days without showering because seeing my body was so upsetting that i would end up spiraling and then i realized i could simply turn the lights out. it took some getting used to but i’ve been showering with the lights off for years and it’s now one of my favorite parts of my day.
do whatever you want nothing is real and there’s no need to inflict unnecessary suffering on yourself just to try to seem “normal”
I love this post
Hmmm
These kinds of loopholes make life so. Much. Better.
One of my favorite stories is this lady had extremely bad OCD. Every day she’d be late to work because she was convinced that her hair dryer was going to burn down the house so would always have to turn around and check it. Multiple times a day even. A bunch of doctors tied to “fix” her of that fear, until one day she got a doctor that suggested she bring the hair dryer with her. Other doctors were annoyed, saying that wasn’t a the correct way to help, but she gave it a go. When she had that fear, she’d look over and see the hair dryer unplugged in the seat next to her and was able to carry on. I think it’s such a perfect example of actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard.
That story helped me stop repeatedly checking if my front door was locked. Instead of checking that the door was locked over and over I would check my security system app. If it’s on it will alert me if the front door opens.
“…actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard” should be added to the Hippocratic Oath.
Started reading about the door and I thought they were gonna say they took the door with them
World Mental Health Day.
Today is World Mental Health Day. It’s typically the day when social media gets flooded with things like “you’re strong enough”, “you can do it!” and “you don’t know how strong you are!”
But I’m here to say that sometimes you aren’t.
Sometimes your thoughts get the better of you. Sometimes you find yourself trapped in your own mind with no way out. Sometimes, no matter what you do, you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.
And that’s okay.
If you are struggling with mental health, know that it is okay to have bad days. You’ll have great days when you feel like you are on top of the world, where your mental health isn’t even a thought in your mind. But you’ll also have days when you feel as though you are nothing but your mental health problems.
No-one will understand what you are going through better than you. People can offer a kind word and support, but you know yourself best. You’ll know what helps in that situation, whether it is hanging out with friends closest to you or cancelling plans in order to have a mental health day.
Do what you have to do on those dark days to get through it, even if it means not leaving your bed. You know the best way to battle your demons, even if that means that you have to lose a few battles in order to win the war.
Autistic and mentally ill and physically disabled students are incredible! We exist in a world that is built for and by neurotypical and able bodied people and we still manage to navigate it!!! Disabled students are so important and deserve all of the validation in the world. I hope every single one of you remembers to look after yourself.
You don’t need to earn self care; you don’t need to completely drain your batteries before you’re allowed to practice self care. You deserve to feel as productive and a part of the community and the student body as any neurotypical able bodied student. Don’t ever compare yourself to their performance standards or force yourself to live up to them in a way that causes you harm. You are perfect exactly how you are. Also, don’t EVER feel badly because you need to do things in a different way from everyone else or you need help accomplishing something. Don’t feel guilty for being yourself. Your accomplishments are not lesser. You are not lesser.
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